This ChristHanuKwanzaa, I wish everyone happiness and good times and closeness. We're about to head into a tightly-scheduled few weeks, where we and most other people will be traveling, visiting, eating, celebrating the birth of Dionysus and Osiris, socializing and generally packing as much together-time as we can into each day. In other words, we goan be busy, yo.
So before the shroud of intense hurrying and struggling to remember things drops over me and I forget to say all the typical necessary holiday niceties to everyone special in my life, I need to get something important said:
I'm not buying you anything for the holidays.
Thanks are not necessary.
Although, perhaps they are merited. You now know that you won't feel the obligation to get me anything in return for the gift you worried I might give you. You no longer have to fear receiving something disappointing, tacky, wretched or just plain offensive from me. That sour moment of Schrodinger's emotions
1 you get right before tearing off the wrapping paper of my gift: Not going to happen.
And not getting me a gift liberates you from the worry that I might not like your purchase choice. You know it would've been horribly complicated just deciding what to buy - 'I don't want to spend too little, and make him think I'm a cheapskate, but I don't want to spend more than $15, because I just don't like him that much, and I can't spend more on him than I do on so-n-so, because that would just suck of me...'
Honestly, it's best that way. The gift you would've gotten me would've ended up at the local thrift store. The chances of you finding something that I want, that I haven't already bought myself and that my wife hasn't, in her prescience, already secreted away for me, are slimmer than Keira Knightley after a bout of food poisoning. I keep the crap in this household to a minimum. I turn unwanted junk into thrift store receipts, which I later turn into tax write-offs. Some complete stranger was destined to buy the garden gnome, hand-made pottery or smelly-ass candle you were going to guilt yourself into buying for me, before you read this holiday sentiment.
You're welcome. Anytime.
Look, here's how it works. If I want something, I'll buy it for myself. If you want something, go buy it yourself. This is valid for all 365.242199 days a year. If we're going to feel good this season, let's not do it by going into debt for each other. Let's do it by hanging out, hugging and smiling at each other, playing games, eating a big meal together, playing MarioKart DoubleDash until 2AM, lighting something on fire, or seeing who can eat the most cheesecake in an evening.
Happy holidays, you all. I love you.
1 Genuine happiness or faked happiness?